Dating ideas for teenage couples
Starting a conversation with a friend who's floundering can be tricky.
It's not as if you're going to say, "Hey, you're supertalented and smart, why are you still stuck as an assistant, or not starting your own company or dating jerky lowlifes?
What You Want: To stop having crazy-angry feelings that get you nowhere. In other words, when we zero in on the bad guy, we usually get mad, rant and don't do much.
Take out a pen and answer the following: Who am I first thing in the morning? Looking over your responses may just lead to this unexpected breakthrough: Though you may contain multitudes, not one of them defines you. In a recent study, conducted by social scientists from Harvard and Columbia, people who watched a CEO overpay himself, while underpaying an employee, were spurred to action when encouraged to focus on the suffering person(the employee) rather than the villain (the CEO). Thankfully, Wharton School professor Adam Grant, author of Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World (out in February), offers concrete suggestions on how to reframe our unwieldy frustrations into "empathetic anger." "Instead of venting about the harm that a perpetrator has done, we need to reflect on the victims who have suffered from it," Grant writes.What You Want: To find out what you (really) want to do.Figuring out what you're meant to do in life is hard.